“Confidence can be described as a belief in one’s ability to succeed. Striking a healthy balance can be challenging. Too much of it and you can come off as cocky and stumble into unforeseen obstacles, but having too little can prevent you from taking risks and seizing opportunities – in school, at work, in your social life, and beyond.” – Psychology Today
Have you met some people that mesmerized you with their presence?
The way they talk, walk, sit down, stand up… there is something that these people do. Ordinary things, that makes them look and seem extraordinary. It feels like they radiate energy that attracts all the people around them. It feels like you need more of them and we are not talking about a romantic way, but many others.
Some call this ability: confidence, charisma, allure, charm, magnetism, etc.
It doesn’t matter how you call it, the important thing is to posses it. In today’s article we will explain to you, how this person manages to do these things. Furthermore, you can learn these abilities and use them.
You only need to focus, try hard and don’t give up!
10 HABITS OF PEOPLE WITH HIGH CONFIDENCE
1. THE RIGHT BODY LANGUAGE
Body language is extremely important, it consists of over 80% of the communication. It is necessary for you to have the right posture and appear that you are on the ball. That doesn’t mean that confidant people are not wrong and that they don’t have doubts. They do, but they try to appear like they know the outcome of any situation.
2. A SINCERE INTEREST IN OTHERS
When we are in conversation with others, mostly with people that we don’t know so well, while they’re talking we tend to think about the answer or the next question. Most of us do this and we totally forget to give interest into the moment of the conversation. The others can feel the energy and know that you are not 100% following their story.
3. BEING CURIOUS
One sided conversation is never good. Encourage people to speak about them self’s. Furthermore, people know their own life’s better then anybodie else. So if you want a nice conversation, encourage the other to speak for themselves and be curious, ask questions. They will, know all the answers and they will love it.
4. SHARING THE SPOTLIGHT
Confident people don’t really care about being the center of attention. That’s why they always are. However, they are always welcoming others to the spotlight and trying to help others look good.
5. HAVING A POWERFUL MESSAGE
If you have a good story, try to contextualize it in a way that benefits someone else. Let’s say, get a message from the stories that will inspire others and will remember you for a very long time.
6. BEING AN ACTIVE LISTENER
Talk less, listen more. Simple as that. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology wrote that expressing interest and asking questions “caused participants to be more open to the idea of having a conversation with the speaker and to judge the conclusions of the speech as more valid.”
7. FORGETTING THE NEED TO BE RIGHT
Just recently at the Emory University, there was a study conducted about the brain’s primitive ”fight or flight” response . People love when they’re right about something. Especially, in a conflict.
When it comes to confident people, they suppress this emotion and chose not to engage in a conversation with someone regardless of their opposing viewpoints.
8. START WITH A POSITIVE MINDSET
When starting the day with positive mindset and engaging a conversation in the same mater, things go a lot better. The energy that you spread can be felt by the people around you.
9. DISPLAYING VULNERABILITY
The opposite of what many people think, displaying vulnerability is actually an act of confident. This sincere reaction tells others that is ok to be less than perfect.
This one shoulders surprise you. Smile is a key to many doors. Just a single little smile makes other people put their guards down and open up more.
Source: Power of Positivity | Psychology Today